Wednesday, January 22, 2014

Special Occasion: A Modesty Metaphor

As darling daughters begin to blossom toward womanhood, we have daily discussions on appearance and appropriateness.
Girls perceive not-so-subtle social signals that "less is more" when appealing to members of the opposite gender. This dangerous half-truth coupled with an emerging sense of style results in a resistance toward the truth we are trying to teach.

One day, I shared a word picture that hopefully shifted our parental position from being major parade-rainers, to being their most enthusiastic supporters in this honorable quest...




Dear Daughter, let's imagine I baked a very special cake just for you for your birthday...your favorite flavor decorated in colorful frosting with a message written especially for you around the candles. Wouldn't that be lovely?


Now, let's say I made it a little early and it wasn't quite time for your celebration. Would you want us to save it for you to enjoy? What should we do with it?


Shall we leave it out on the table uncovered? Wouldn't everyone want to try it even though it was not made for them? Some might even sneak a little pinch or drag their pinkie through the frosting, huh?


Surely the flies would be attracted and even if we couldn't see the bitefuls they were taking, their germs and grossness would be cause for concern!


Can you imagine arriving at your birthday party and seeing a half-eaten, smeared-around, cake that somehow was not saved for you?


Ok. God made you so wonderfully. So beautiful. So special.
Who has God intended to enjoy your outward beauty above all others?
Your husband, right?


Well, it's still a little early for that. If you are preparing your heart to love your husband -whoever he is- don't you want him to be so thrilled and excited about the special treasure of your beauty?


Wouldn't he feel so special knowing he's the only one in the whole world who gets to fully enjoy how beautiful God made you? If your outward beauty is uncovered and exposed and left out in the open for all to see and touch and take, then it won't seem very special to him...just like a messed up birthday cake.


Who are we living for?
God.
Who are we drawing attention toward with our whole lives?
God.
If we are drawing some of the attention toward ourselves, aren't we robbing God?


What is your priority: trying to feel cute by wearing short shorts, or trying to keep your outward beauty a special secret until that special someone comes along and marries you?


And here is the best news of all!


Modestly clothed, your inward beauty shines so brightly that God is being honored and you are loving your husband already...that handsome, sharp, and cool guy who will notice your Godly beauty immediately and want to marry you forever:)


You are altogether beautiful, my love;
    there is no flaw in you.

Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain,
    but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.

but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart
    with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,
    which in God's sight is very precious.
Give to the Lord the glory due to His name;
    worship the Lord in the beauty of holiness.
You are altogether beautiful, my love;
    there is no flaw in you.


Song of Solomon 4:7
Proverbs 31:30
1 Peter 3:4
Psalm 29:2